Some people aim is only to drain energy out from you.
They like vampire and vultures feed with your life fluids and leave you exahusted and bewildered , wondering what was the reason of their behaviour . Or worse wondering what you have done !!
Is not your fault , sweet butterfly , if not the fault to trust too much , specially at beginning .
The reason about that feast of blood , is a no reason really , they are predators , and maybe you are just the right victim at the right moment for them , nothing personal.
You can find them everywhere ..yes.. butterfly , dont open your eyes in astonishment , they are even in SL fashion world !! And they are many .
Some are naive so easily identificable and easy to cope with, because their gross behaviour in taking advantage of others , is so clear and lightens on their forehead like a traffic light , allowing people who are not totally blind to step away without regrets .
Some other instead , are much more dangerous , because their technique , often passive aggressive , is a mix of strictness and sweetness , a smile and a pout , now flattering and now detached, keeping one always on tip toe and that kind of " dead kitten " behavior ( even a male can be a dead kitten !) it is recognizable only after a while , when you are in that molasses till the neck and the damage has already started to produce in your mind.
They never criticize you in open , but when talking about you they have always an extitant tone of voice a movement of eyes "... yes .. she's good ..but .." , they never speak upfront to you but the grid is full of their speech done on your back, they always show you symphaty , and now and then for at least 10 minute you feel "the centre of world" , but then for the rest of the time you are with them they don't support you at all , eben showing a slightly bother about you .
They profess you friendship and love, but they always have a stab ready to use ( pret a porter ) under their cloak !!!
They are a more civilized kind of predators , better dressed and with a better spelling , but not less dangerous that the really ugly ones .
Now I dont want terrorize you !!! Come here ..dont run ... of course the SL fashion world is a fantastic place to work and stay , it is highly rewarding if you work hard , it is full of lovely , professional , wonderful, friendly, supportive ready to help , and really worthy people !!! Full of lovely collegues , agencies , designers , DJ, staff , all people which is a pleasure to work with and for .
So let's try to open our eyes wide and become more selective , lets not run in every contest we see , apply for every model call we know about , running running without to know why , lets not be pushed by hunger to work ending in not professional hands .
Lets stop now and then and lets make a little review about those requirements of seriousness that we all know what they are , lets check if they are all in place before to accept a work , and if we accepted it and we start to smell something not right ..lets follow our istinct .. lets step away , you are the best judge about what is the best for yourself ..and they won't change ..they never change .
lets be clever ( yep I am sure , butterflies have a brain!!! so lets use it )
DING !!!
Wake up butterfly !!
Butterfly defend yourself !
Defend your private life , your job and your dignity ..dont allow them to pull you down at their level and cause you damages that after.... when you want make the change of level.. in a high level career , where really high standards are required , are hard to fix .
Because some little black spots , some initial acquired flaw both on your style and on your curriculum are really persistent , they stay on you very very long , even when you seem to have won them , if you dont use the best detergent , rubbing hard with a harsh , intensive professional extra dose of training !!!
.. butterfly step away with a smile, never polemize in any case , but closing accurately all the doors at your back .
And to remember you, all that i talked about with a smile, I will write below what once said George Bernard Shaw
" I learned long ago never to wrestle with a pig .. you get dirty and besides the pig like it !! "
have a great day :)
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